All-Female Street Fight Ends In Murder, Pregnant Woman Killed, 2 Others Injured When Woman Rams Her Car Into Brawl - CBS News
Okay, I'm just shaking my head on this one. Thats really all I can do. I'm trying to imagine 20 young black woman, progesterone raging, lining up on sides to throw down in what sounds like an old fashioned gang fight. What is going on in our communities that we have this kind of nonsense breaking out? What the hell are we doing (or not doing) in our families that we have this craziness happening? Incidentally, I guess its become politically incorrect to say gangfight or something, because every news account I've seen uses this sanitized "planned confrontation" phrase to describe the fight. Thats interesting all by itself.
As we marching in Galveston for Megan and we keep sleeping on Dunbar Village and we mad about Michael Vick and tripping on the Dog, in LA, a 21 year old child of God intentionally got behind the wheel of her car and drove it headlong into another child of God who was eight months pregnant with still another child of God. She didn't care about the girl's life or the baby growing inside her. She just ran her down in the moment. She turned herself in. Maybe later she couldn't believe she had done it. Maybe she feels remorse. I hope so. At least that would signal that she had not left her humanity behind, that we had not completely failed to teach her anything before she made this horrible decision to kill.
A march won't fix this.
wow. this one i did NOT hear about.
ReplyDeletei think it's love that's missing. these girls were not loved by the people who should have nurtured them.
i believe children are a direct reflection of the parenting styles used to rear them. regardless of how we THINK we are raising our
children, the truth is in the proof: their actions when they are away from home.
some of our children are filled with anger and rage and this gang fight is a clear example. i don't believe a young woman who is happy with
her life would willingly participate in such an activity.
i'm not trying to point the finger at anyone. however, as parents we have a responsibility to keep our children as healthy and as safe as
we can. that includes mental health.
and i know we can only do better when we know better (thank you Ms. Maya Angelou for sharing that profound statement with us.) but who will
love and nurture our children if we don't? not because we don't want to, but because we don't know how. the concensus among people i know
seems to be that they are raising their children pretty much as they were raised. for most of them, that included what is now considered
child abuse. i thank God every day that my momma wasn't that type.
in our house, belts held up pants, shoes went on feet, and hands were used for any number of things but never slapping. and i can't speak
for how other girls my age did things, but my girlfriends and i never engaged in physical altercations or called each other degrading
names.
my daughter's experience has been different. let me share...
in our efforts to make new friends in our new hometown, my daughter and i have met a LOT of people in the few years we've been here.
we've met folks hither and yon: at the library, at church, while doing laundry, while shopping, at the recreation center, etc. while we
have been blessed to meet a few wonderful folk, we have also come across some humdingers (as my momma would say).
the first times we hung out with the wolves in sheep's clothing, things went well. in subsequent get-togethers i noticed aggressive and/or
violent behavior in some of these girls. a few incidents happened during extended (and parentless) visits at our home.
what i've seen has been both scary and sad.
i've witnessed subtle intimidation, verbal threats, and attempted ridicule. i've also seen pushing/shoving, slapping, and attempted
choking. needless to say, the perpertrators of these acts are no longer in our play date rotation. however, one of the girls goes to our
church so my daughter still interacts with her. ;-(
i saw one girl push my daughter in an attempt to trip her. when i told the child that we don't do things like that at our house and i don't
allow anyone to do those kinds of things to my daughter, the girl got mad at ME.
what role does socio-economic status play?
i'm not sure. our old neighborhood (back home) was considered "the hood". here we live in a fairly affluent area. i never had any problems
with my daughter's friends back home (even the ones we thought of as sassy) and i wish i could say that about most of the girls we've met
here.
i don't know, either, exactly how age factors in. (obviously) my daughter was younger before we moved here but she has always had friends
in a wide age range. i have noticed that the girls who act out negatively towards my daughter have been her age to a few years older, but
i'm not sure of the reasons.
i've also noticed that the negatively aggressive/violent girls seem to have a need to bolster self-image by bragging about the ownership
and/or future acquisition of designer/luxury items. in a few cases it's been the mothers who have done the bragging.
i believe we have to heal ourselves before we can heal our children. but how long is it gonna take for some of us to become aware that we need help?